How to help people (3)
“He gave them his attention, expecting to receive.” Ac 3:5 NKJV
You can’t help someone until they’re ready. That calls for knowing the difference between those who are looking for solutions, and those who may just be looking for sympathy. Before the lame man at the temple gate received his healing, “he gave [Peter and John] his attention, expecting to receive something from them.” Note two important words: (1) “Attention.” Have you got the other person’s attention? Are they really hearing what you say, or are they so blinded by circumstances and emotion that they can’t see a way out, even though you’re clearly pointing them to it? (2) “Expecting.” The most effective thing you can do to help somebody is to build their faith. And that takes patience. One leader writes frankly about his problem with impatience when working with others: “Early in my career I wanted to do things as quickly as possible and move on to the next thing. If someone didn’t want to move at my speed, I breezed right past him or her. But that leadership style hindered my ability to connect with others, and my relationships suffered. The good news was that I moved fast. The bad news was that I often moved alone. Moving at the speed of another person can be exhausting. It obviously takes energy to keep up with someone who’s moving faster than we are. But isn’t it also tiring to move at a slower pace than we want to?…I find it very frustrating. It tries my patience. However, if I want to connect with people, I have to be willing to slow down and go at someone else’s pace.” And to help people, you must be willing to do the same.
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account_circle C Wilson
I love helping people! It brings me so much joy, when I see others happy. It really doesn't take much to ask someone you might see struggling with something if they need help. Even while shopping, sometimes you may see someone trying to fetch something from a shelf but they cannot reach it comfortably; just by offering to get it for them is big help. Most of the time, it is the little things that count. God Bless you all!!
account_circle Christine Chela
Help us Lord! #edified
account_circle Barbara McKee
I work on this daily and many times just have to get alone to reach out to the Father for Wisdom and to keep a Spirit of Love not impatience. The Spirit is willing. The flesh is weak so I have to keep trusting and relying on the Lord. Honestly people will be where they are until God makes them move a better way. Sometimes it seems we just need to get out of the way and let God do His thing while holding people up in Prayer. People have to be able to know where they are in life. It doesnt help anything if I know where they are but they dont.