“Yes, but” people
“They have an unhealthy interest in controversies.” 1Ti 6:4 NIV
Some people miss all the good things in life by focusing only on what’s wrong. They miss the flowers in the garden and point out the weeds. Who are they? They’re the “Yes, but” people. In order to help them and to deal with them the right way, you must: (1) Be discerning. Recognize that often their outward bravado masks a deep inner insecurity. It lets them shift the focus off their own fears and onto the faults of others. (2) Be accepting. Our first inclination is to ignore and isolate difficult people. That’s a mistake. Difficult people often want to be ignored, and avoiding them just provides the emotional distance for them to hide. Plus, it confirms their belief that you don’t care and won’t listen because you think they’re wrong and you’re right. (3) Be interested. Show genuine concern for their family, their work, and their well-being. “Yes, but” people usually struggle with giving and receiving love; they’re inclined to elevate opinion and loyalty above communication and reconciliation. And nowhere is it more evident than in their personal lives. So be prepared to empathize with the trail of broken relationships you’re likely to find. (4) Be kind. The Bible says, “Love is patient, love is kind…It…always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails” (1Co 13:4-8 NIV). Avoiding “Yes, but” people doesn’t work; neither does arguing with them or trying to straighten them out. You can’t change the habits of a lifetime in one or two conversations. But given enough time, the one strategy that never fails is love.
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account_circle Forrest Rogers
I’m thankful for the resources that we have today through modern technology. These devotions, Free Chapel Live Streamed, Pastor Franklins Sermons, etc, have blessed my soul. However I can have all of these things and don’t have love im as a sounding brass and a tinkling cymbal. Yes, I need the love of Jesus to flow through me to others. I was once a castaway, totally lost and undone when Jesus found me. I’m so thankful for His Love and I can’t keep what’s been freely given to me without giving it away.