You must forgive them
“If you hold anything against anyone, forgive him, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you.”
Mk 11:25 NIV
When asked which emotions contribute most to physical illness, a group of eminent doctors said, “Anger and unforgiveness.” That’s because over time they release deadly toxins into your body. One doctor said, “It’s not what you are eating, but what’s eating you that threatens your health.” When someone hurts you, there are four things you should do: (1) Talk to them. Now, there’s a right time, a right place, and a right way to do it. Before you say anything, ask God to guide your thoughts and words. Then say what’s in your heart in a loving, low-key, nonjudgmental way. After that, leave the rest with God. He can do a better job of changing things than you can. (2) Don’t retaliate. When you’re tempted to lash out at someone, stop and remember the price Jesus paid to take away the sins you commit. Seeing your offender through God’s eyes will help you to forgive just about anybody. (3) Let it go. As long as you dwell on the issue it’ll keep hurting you. You may let someone off your hook, but that doesn’t mean they’re off God’s hook. He will deal with them the right way and bring about the right result, which is something you can’t do. (4) Ask God to bless them. You say, “Are you serious?” Yes; Jesus said, “Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you” (Lk 6:27-28 NIV). And when Jesus tells you to do something, He gives you the grace to do it.