“Let every man be swift to hear.” Jas 1:19 NKJV
Most men are “fixers” by nature. They fix cars, washing machines, and leaky faucets. So when it seems like their wives would rather talk about problems than fix them, they get frustrated. Often they don’t realize that what she needs is emotional validation more than a solution. And that means sitting down and listening patiently about how she feels. When men do this, their wife’s entire outlook changes. Has the problem been solved? Not necessarily. But an important need has been met. In the wife’s eyes, the man who pursued her, took her out on romantic dates, and hung on her every word, is letting her know that her feelings still matter to him. The husband who learns this sooner rather than later, will find himself with a happier wife. Think of it this way: Sometimes our prayers don’t change the circumstances, but we feel better when we’ve prayed, right? That’s because we’ve shared it with the One who’s able, and cares enough to listen, so we come away with a changed outlook. It’s the reason Paul wrote: “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave…[His time, attention, support, encouragement, and His life] for her” (Eph 5:25 AMPC). Men who soar in their careers are often clueless about this marriage principle. But it’s not too late to learn. Now, the first time you try it don’t be surprised if your wife seems wary, looks confused, or faints and has to pick herself up off the floor! Her reaction will be proportionate to the length of time you’ve been emotionally absent. So hang in there, and give it time. The rewards will far outweigh the investment.