Love must be based on trust
“May the Lord make you increase and abound in love to one another.”
1Th 3:12 NKJV
The real test of trust in a relationship is to be able to share your secrets and struggles, your inner fears and failures—intimacy based on honesty. It takes courage to be honest with God, and even more to be honest with one another. The relationship between Adam and Eve is described in these words: “They were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed” (Ge 2:25 NKJV). They were open and transparent with one another because there was nothing to hide or be ashamed of. Perhaps you’ve been so hurt by a relationship that you’ve said, “I will never trust anyone again.” That’s because you’re not healed yet. To never trust again is like living in a tower. You’re safe from life’s threatening grasp, but you’re so detached from life that you lose consciousness of people, places, dates, and events. You talk only about the past because you stopped living years ago. Good news! “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds” (Ps 147:3 NKJV). God’s healing process can set you free to taste life again, trust again, and live without fear. Don’t isolate, celebrate. Regardless of whether you’ve lost a marriage, a partnership, or a personal friend, you’re still alive! Are you ready to live, or are you going to continue rehearsing what no one, including you, can change—the past? Some of us are graced to live alone and feel complete and fulfilled. If you are one of them, go for it! But if you’re not, trust God to bring the right person into your life at the right time.